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in psyhotherapy there exist "imaginative techniques", where you create e.g. an imagined 100% positive being,that is there to guide you, calm you, brighten you up.this visualization should have a...
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michaDam wrote:Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going, in which people come out of their heads and stop criticizing and...
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People are individuals. No two people will ever resolve conflict consistently the same. So it seems we are better off resolve conflict within ourselves and then hope to spread the results. Meeting our...
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michaDam wrote: Conflicts, even of long standing duration, can be resolved if we can just keep the flow of communication going, in which people come out of their heads and stop criticizing and...
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hi SMc, > there are people who derives great pleasure in winning at someone else's expense. No amount of compromise can satisfy them and that's the brutal truth. that's correct. accepting their...
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I'm kind of interested in the subject matter of this thread right now, as I went through a spell, maybe about two weeks ago, when I felt a lot of angry feelings filling my consciousness. The answer to...
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^ Yes, it is upsetting when communication breaks down with someone you know. Bottling up anger isn't good for your health, and venting, as you say, isn't ideal, either. It can do more harm.It can help...
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This discussion reminds me of a book I've had on my list for some time now--Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion (by Carol Tavris)This book has been out for a long time, but has been more recently...
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^ I thought the Carol Tavris book sounded interesting, but it's had very mixed reviews.IMO, where there's a lot of anger, it's more than just innate aggressiveness. We may be genetically predisposed...
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As to the last point, I wonder how it relates to the questions of whether there should be some kind of compulsory national service, or a selective draft (such as we had in the US for decades until...
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^ But is that channelling the energy in a constructive way, I wonder? Military training for people who are already over-aggressive? Are they really suited to the job? The army is one of those careers...
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^ I was thinking similar. It was Lincoln, I think, who said something like "a standing army is the worst thing that you can have". I also agree with Helen that there is always something more behind...
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michaDam wrote: the male perspective...hm, yes, the "hunting mode", where emotions are turned off - long story... emotional intelligence is extremely important in my opinion, for both males and...
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> Hitler's father used to beat him severely emotional abuse causes a massive backlash - societies where violence against kids is normal are paying the price.
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^ Yes. Another thing Alice Miller said was that German parenting at that time tended to be strict. This created a suitable environment for Hitler and Nazism to gain power, because the people had been...
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Meditation is very helpful, calming the emotional waves... add some visualisation - can really reduce stress. I would say we don't have to rise above emotions, we just should handle them correctly,...
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^ I've read a bit about Hitler's relationship with his niece. Alice Miller wrote about that, too. She also wrote a great deal about the subtler forms of abuse - verbal and non-verbal. It's important...
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> the subtler forms of abuse - verbal and non-verbal. It's important for babies and small children to be held, to have eye contact, to have the right kind of attention exactly. thanks for...
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michaDam wrote: It was interesting also to read that Hitler's mother seemed to have been quite nice to him ("adored" him). I suspect the discrepancy of care between father and mother (mother is nice,...
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michaDam wrote: I would say we don't have to rise above emotions, we just should handle them correctly, instead of letting us be slaves of always the same automatic patterns of trigger and "violent"...
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